C’mon, admit it… Even if you’re super savvy financially, I’m sure you’ve occasionally bought a lottery ticket (or several). I know I have, when the jackpot is so astronomically high that it more than compensates for the next-to-but-not-quite-zero odds of winning the big one, of sudden wealth.
If nothing else, we do it so that for a few days we can fantasize about becoming a centi-millionaire (with a net worth of $100 million or more) or a billionaire, in one fell swoop. Having the kind of money that would let us:
- Immediately pay off all debts, including credit cards, auto loans, student loans, and even mortgages
- Say goodbye to our boss, because the sudden wealth means we don’t need that salary anymore.
- Buy anything we dream of, be it designer clothes and shoes, high-end cars, a big house with a million-dollar view, one or more vacation homes, or maybe even a yacht.
- Go on extended trips to exotic locations (Bali anyone?), flying first-class or even chartering our own jet, sipping fruity cocktails on tropical beaches.
- Go to high-society parties, hobnobbing with the rich and powerful.
- And if we aren’t totally self-absorbed, help family members who’re struggling financially, and make meaningful contributions to charitable causes near and dear to us.
“Wouldn’t that be so awesome?” we think to ourselves.
Even if you don’t hit the lottery jackpot, maybe you’re creative and lucky enough to become the next J.K. Rowling of Harry Potter fame (though maybe with less controversial stances on societal issues…), or score a rich NFL contract worth hundreds of millions of dollars, or hit a cryptocurrency home run.
However it happens, imagine you suddenly go from your current financial circumstances to having a net worth in the top 0.03% in the US.
Paradise, here I come… Right? Or, maybe not so much…
What is Sudden Wealth Syndrome?
When your financial circumstances suddenly change so dramatically, you don’t have the experience, knowledge, or even network of people to advise you on what you can or should do with your newfound wealth.
If your checking account balance suddenly launches to outer space, how would you react? Who would you turn to for advice on how to manage your money, or even how to keep an even keel?! Chances are, your family, friends, colleagues, or even acquaintances don’t include anyone with $100 million net worth, or even $10 million for that matter.
It would almost surely cause you incredible stress, anxiety, and loneliness. Will your friends still feel comfortable going out with you? Will they be able to keep up with your likely new lifestyle?
Would new (or longtime) “friends,” relatives you never even knew existed, and scammers start crawling out of the woodwork with their hands out, hoping (if not actually expecting) that you’d share at least some of your newfound wealth with them?
Will people in your new financial bracket be welcoming to someone who just yesterday was barely making ends meet, and now suddenly may have even more money than they do?
Finally, would you be able to stay rich (and sane), or even alive? Many lottery winners didn’t.
While the negative emotional impacts of suddenly becoming wealthy don’t appear in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) – the bible of mental health diagnoses, some therapists who work with people in this situation coined the term Sudden Wealth Syndrome.
The Problems of the Suddenly Wealthy
Not having the necessary financial knowledge and experience, you can get yourself into deep trouble. Even if you don’t end up poorer than before, you could suffer from very real emotional problems.
- You’d likely owe more in taxes than your total lifetime income to date (prior to becoming wealthy), and if you don’t set aside enough to pay those taxes you could end up in deep trouble with the IRS.
- If you start spending and/or giving money away like there’s no tomorrow, when tomorrow does come, you may find yourself in worse financial circumstances than before you got your windfall. Even the Vanderbilt family managed to squander $200 billion in today’s money within 50 years. And if a family with such storied wealth can totally run out of money, how much more so someone with no background of wealth?
- Whether because you can’t believe it really happened, or fearing how your family, friends, and neighbors will react, you may feel financially paralyzed. Even if you hate your job and your boss, you may feel reluctant to quit your job. Even if you’re paying high interest on credit card debt, you might not even feel like you can actually wipe out that debt.
- Even if you’re wise enough to get professional financial advice, you may become anxious that it could all evaporate as quickly as it came into your life, and be unwilling or unable to invest with prudent levels of risk. If you do so invest, you may become obsessed with watching the markets, constantly afraid that your portfolio could crash and burn.
- For so many of us, our identity is deeply tied to what we do professionally. Imagine suddenly not needing to work another day in your life. You might indeed quit, but you may suffer an identity crisis until you can figure out who you are given your new circumstances. This is a common problem for retirees who’ve had many years to get used to the idea of retirement. How much worse for someone who expected to have to stay on the hamster wheel for decades more, and overnight learns they can retire early.
- Even if you don’t go crazy with your spending, family and close friends may pull away. They may feel like they’re no longer valued by you. They may be jealous of your new wealth and/or resentful that you accomplished something they will likely never achieve. Even if none of that happens, most of your friends will still need to go to work every day, and few if any will be able to join you on the sort of vacation you’ll suddenly be able to afford. As this happens, you’ll likely start feeling lonely.
- As mentioned above, others may try to become closer to you, not because they appreciate you more, but rather because they’re hoping for a financial benefit, whether because you can pick up the check for everyone when you go out to a restaurant or through a direct financial gift. As this happens, you’d likely become suspicious even of those few who stay with you because they’re truly interested in you, not your money, further exacerbating your loneliness.
How to Stay Rich and Sane in the Aftermath of Sudden Wealth
They say money can’t buy happiness. Most of us would be happy to be given the opportunity to disprove that saying. If you suddenly come into a lot of money, here are some things you can do in the short and long term to stay rich, sane, and hopefully happy.
Newly Rich? Do This in the Short Term
- To the extent possible, don’t share the financial news with anyone you don’t have to. And no, that doesn’t mean you can keep it a secret from your spouse. Keeping things quiet will prevent, reduce, or at least delay losing friends or wondering who’s around you solely or mostly for expected financial benefits. It’ll also help protect you from scammers, thieves, or even legitimate charities trying to separate you from more money than you wish.
- Continue participating in your normal leisure activities. Keep going to the gym. Continue going out for drinks with the guys or gals. Keep bowling, or playing tennis and/or whatever other sport you enjoy. Stick with your book club/bridge club/chess club. This will help you stay grounded and maintain your friendships.
- Until you finish the next few steps, avoid making financial moves you wouldn’t have made before becoming wealthy.
- Hire a team of reputable advisors – an accountant, a financial planner, an investment advisor, and an attorney. Where applicable, make sure they’re fiduciaries, required to put your financial interests ahead of their own.
- Have your accountant figure out how much you need to set aside for future taxes, and how much you need to pay now. The latter, pay now.
- With your accountant and attorney, figure out how much you actually have after taxes.
- Once you know how much you have, talk with your financial advisors to figure out your financial goals and priorities given your new circumstances and how much you can and should put toward each. Make sure the plan includes a set amount of “mad money” that you can spend on whatever crazy luxuries you want. As long as you avoid overspending, enjoying your new wealth within bounds is part of what will make you happy (without driving you into bankruptcy).
- Work out with your investment advisor what investment risks you’d be able to live with, and how to construct a diversified portfolio of investments (likely including stocks, bonds, possibly real estate, precious metals, etc.).
- If you have any high-interest debts, pay those off as soon as you’ve finished developing your plans with your advisors. If they’re any good, they’ll probably make that one of your top priorities.
This in the Intermediate-Term
- With your accountant’s help, set up timely tax payments.
- Deploy your new wealth in a way that reduces your overall risk (prudent and diversified investments), and that prevents what happened to the Vanderbilts by making most of the money less liquid, so even if you wanted to you couldn’t easily spend it all away.
- Consider if quitting your job will make you happier than sticking with that identity. If you decide to quit, put together a plan for what you want your life to look like in terms of what you’ll do every day that will make you happy to get out of bed in the morning. Only after that’s in place should you consider giving notice at work.
- Within the limits of your new financial plan, start spending on things you couldn’t do before. You may want to upgrade your home and car(s). You may want to treat your family to an expensive vacation. You may want to replace your wardrobe. Whatever it is, make sure your new spending level is sustainable, including the maintenance costs on your new property/ies.
- Just as in the short term and for the same reasons, continue your leisure activities. Now, however, you can start thinking what other activities you want to pick up that might previously have been out of reach. Perhaps you’ve always wanted to ski or scuba dive but couldn’t afford it. Now’s the time to cautiously expand your scope of fun activities, again, within the scope of what your new financial plan allows. However, as you expand your horizons, make sure you don’t inadvertently push away friends by trying to get them to do things that are beyond their means. Even if you offer to pay for things, it may make them feel uncomfortable, costing you their friendship.
- Before news of your new circumstances start spreading, figure out how you’ll respond to monetary requests from close family, distant relatives, close friends, charities, etc. Planning this ahead of time will serve you in good stead when, not if, people start asking. Your response should and will depend on the source of the request, the reason for it, and the amount requested. For example, if your brother loses his job and needs temporary help with the mortgage to keep his house, you’re more likely to say yes than if a third cousin twice removed asks you to bankroll to the tune of $10 million his new business venture, developing modular housing for an eventual base on Mars.
For the Long Term
- If you find yourself struggling to figure out your new identity, fighting anxiety and/or loneliness, or any other emotional challenges, find a good therapist. Research proves that therapy is 4x more likely to help address emotional issues than toughing it out on your own.
- Continue participating in the leisure activities you enjoy with the people you enjoy doing them with.
- With your attorney’s help, set up an estate plan (that includes an updated will).
- Unfortunately, as the news spreads, you may well need to not only decline many requests but also defend yourself from numerous frivolous lawsuits. Your attorney can help with that, whether by representing you or by referring you to a good litigator.
Sudden Wealth Syndrome: The Bottom Line
Even if sudden wealth syndrome isn’t recognized as a mental disorder in the DSM, the stresses and emotional impacts of sudden wealth can be surprisingly hard to deal with. And while all of us love to fantasize about becoming unimaginably wealthy overnight, such fortune comes with very real challenges, and occasionally even deadly consequences.
As true as the above is, don’t expect much sympathy from family, friends, or acquaintances for what you have to deal with. They can only see the fantasy, not the reality you’re dealing with. So, if you find yourself struggling, seek professional help from a good therapist. And no matter what, make sure to build a team of reputable advisors who will help you stay rich while your therapist helps you stay sane.
Disclaimer: This article is intended for informational purposes only, and should not be considered financial advice. Before making major financial decisions, please speak with us or another qualified professional for guidance. The original version of this article first appeared on Wealthtender written by Opher Ganel.